Frustrated cries wind their way down the stairs to assail me. My shoulders tense, rising 2 inches to greet my ears. I sigh, my heart dropping with my out breath.

8.30am Monday, a school day.

‘Not again!’ flashes through my mind.

My chest tightening, irritation snapping at my heels, I climb the stairs to my daughter’s bedroom hearing the cries grow louder with each step I take.

On the floor of the bedroom, a writhing, tantruming mess is playing out. Small hands claw to strip off socks & pull at her dress collar as my daughter screams in anger.

My desperate pleas to keep her uniform on, falling on deaf ears as the shrieks rise to a crescendo. My ears ring & blood pressure rises. A thousand thoughts whizz through my head like a swarm of angry bees:

What have I done wrong?

I’m such a failure as a parent that I can’t even get my child to school on time..

Have I raised a monster?

Is there something fundamentally wrong with my daughter?

Can I turn this around in 5 minutes & still make it before the school bell rings?

Is there anyone out there who can help me??

All the while, fighting a growing, scary, urge to grab my daughter by the shoulders & give her a sharp slap to just stop the siren-like wailing, or throw her out the window.

Eventually the tantrum subsides sufficiently, & with a super-human effort on my part, the hot, sweaty mess is coerced off the floor & dressed – again – in her offending uniform.

Later, after finally making school drop-off, I arrive on a friend’s doorstep & instantly burst into my own tears of frustration. It’s not even 9am & the exhaustion from riding the emotional rollercoaster of my daughter’s emotions already threatens to cripple me.

Inside, over a cup of soothing tea, my friend hands me a book – The Highly Sensitive Child by Dr Elaine Aron & says ‘I think you need to read this.’ Only a few chapters in, I’m struck by 2 realizations – the 1st brings blessed relief – my daughter isn’t a monster, she’s just a Highly Sensitive Child in overwhelm! The 2nd, even more profound – I’m Highly Sensitive as well!

Learning this is like finding the missing jigsaw piece to my life. Everything starts to fall into place for me – why I feel different, never fitting in anywhere, wearing my heart on my sleeve, noticing things that others seem to miss, my tendency to ‘over-think’ & not just let things go.. The light bulbs go off, like flashes of a paparazzi’s camera.

I’d finally been given the right user manual for ME.

Since discovering I’m a Highly Sensitive Person, I’ve learnt how to manage my Overwhelm & pay attention to the environments I spend time in. I’ve come to embrace my sensitivity & fully appreciate it as a superpower.

Our ability as Highly Sensitive People, to think deeply, process deeply, empathise with others, feel intensely, notice things others miss & see the Big Picture are all things that our World desperately needs – now more than ever.

I now understand I’m wired differently & need to live my life in a way that honours my sensitive nature.

Through practicing extreme self-care & maintaining boundaries, I can stand fully in my sensitive power, ready to show up & make the difference I know I’m here to make. And you can too.

My Vision is to live in a World filled with sensitive female leaders.

Where our children see their sensitive mothers standing in their Power.

Where companies are run by sensitive female decision-makers.

Where countries are governed by sensitive, compassionate women.

The World needs to hear our sensitive voices. Together we can restore balance, kindness & unity to the World – sensitively.

My Story
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I had a mid-life crisis in my early 30s.

After a few years working in an investment bank, I was disillusioned, burnt-out & ready to spend time exploring the best beaches I could find on my round the world tour. I returned home 12 months later to start a new life & ended up studying Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) in a bid to sort out my messy mind. Impressed at how well it worked, I trained as a Master Coach in NLP so I could help others.

12 years on & 2 children later, I was in the midst of another crisis, this time with daughter No. 1's tantrums over seams in her socks & scratchy labels in her clothes. Surely it wasn't normal to have a 7 year old lying on the floor screaming because of her socks? I turned up at a friend's house in tears after a particularly stressful school drop-off, to be handed Dr Elaine Aron's book on 'The Highly Sensitive Child'.

Reading the book quite literally changed my life. I found out my daughter wasn't a monster, she was just Highly Sensitive & in overwhelm. And the real light-bulb moment was the realisation that I was Highly Sensitive as well. Discovering I was a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) was like finding the missing jigsaw puzzle piece to my life. 

Always sensing I was different, not understanding why I couldn't do things the way others did, feeling things so deeply it sometimes hurt & not being able to just let things go & move on...It all made sense. It was as if I'd finally been given the right user manual to my life. 

I spent a few years applying what I'd learnt from my studies in NLP, Psychology, Clean Language & Symbolic Modelling, Shamanism, Mindfulness, Yoga & all the other training I'd undertaken over the years, to manage the Overwhelm, Perfectionism & other challenges typically experienced by Highly Sensitive People.

I now recognise sensitivity as a profound gift & am passionate about sharing what I've learnt with other HSPs.

As a Mother & Entrepreneur, I understand the challenges being Highly Sensitive can bring when juggling running a business with family life.

My aim is to help all Highly Sensitive People, & especially women, fully appreciate their sensitive gifts so they can make the difference they're here to make in the World & thrive. 

Martine Louis, Money Coach

I knew from my early childhood that I was an introvert, shy & very sensitive but it became a real challenge when life pushed me to become an entrepreneur.

When I met Nina and discovered that I was a highly sensitive person, my vision and my life completely changed.

I now welcome this challenge as a strength. In a very safe environment with empathy, understanding, & patience, Nina gave me confidence using very powerful tools specially designed for people like me.  Now I know that I am not alone... I embrace my trait and focus on the benefits that being an HSP can give me - more empathy, creativity, the ability to feel positive emotions very deeply, intuition and also the ability to develop qualities to be a great leader.

I used to say to my clients that Awareness is the open door to the shift, that’s exactly what Nina does with her coaching and the huge benefits that occur.